Being a "young" mom.
When I was young, my dream was to be a mom. I use to play "house" with my childhood friends and I would always be the mom. I would go home from school get out my barbies and always be the "mom" As I grew older, I always use to say " I want to be 21 and have my first baby" ( clearly I was relating myself to my own mom who was married by 21, and had my oldest brother at 22 ) But life is different these days, and schooling, finding a job is much different then back then. I had gotten married at 24, and shortly after found out I was pregnant with Capri at 25. Now in this day in age that is fairly young to start having kids.
When I became pregnant with Capri, I was expecting to hear lots of negative comments about how I was way to young to have a baby, Connor and I should of waited a little longer, was this planned? It's really a lot of pressure when you hear a lot of negativity coming from something so great. To me, it's no ones business to ask when we were going to start having kids, and why we decided to have kids so "early" on in our life together. It's not fair to judge someone based on their life decisions. The truth is, I would never change a thing about the choices that we made.
It took me a little bit to get these comments out of my head. It's hurtful when other people make comments about your life choices. Luckily both our families were super happy and excited about the new life that we were creating and I realized that was the only support that we needed.
Over time comments were left unsaid, and we have decided to move past what other people's opinions were. But It's funny because sometimes when I am in a store I get stared at from people wondering what I am doing with a baby so I quickly brush them a smile and stay confident as I am proud to be a young mom. I know that I am a good mom despite my age.
People's number one question: Is your life now over since you had your baby so young?
NO. My life is not over. Of course different life choices that we made are different, but it doesn't mean my life is over. To anyone who is having a baby younger or older you can still live your life the way you want to, but you just have different responsibilities now. I would much rather be at home with my family, than out partying every weekend till 1-2 am and feeling shitty the next day. I am not interested in living that kind of life. ( Not saying this is a bad or how you should live your life, but it's not something I enjoy doing ) Yes I love to socialize with my friends and have nights with them once in a while, but I can STILL do that while having a baby. There are many times that I have gone out to hang out with my friends and brought Capri along, or just me and still came home after having a great time ( no drinks needed ) Connor and I still enjoy going out with our friends, have date nights just us two, and enjoy time with Capri and our friends! In fact we bring Capri everywhere we go, and she usually is really good. Our life never stopped. We continued to take trips together. When Capri was seven months old we took her to Montreal and Quebec ( in February ) the coldest month of the year and we drove in a huge snow storm, we went to Carnival and stayed outside in the cold. Capri didn't complain once in fact I think I complained more. But the thing is, we still lived our life, had adventures with her and our friends. YOU CAN DO IT TOO.
Everyone chooses when it's their time, and what works well for your life.
So we should just stop the shameless questions to people and their life choices, to young moms because I could never imagine my life without my husband and my baby girl and the time we had her in our lives. I wouldn't trade it for anything. So yes, I am a young mom but my life is far from over it just got stared.
xo
Stephanie
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